What is Self-love?
Why should I bother?
Many people mistakenly believe that self-love is the same as narcissism, or having a big ego. It’s not. So, what do we mean when we say “self-love”? Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.
The concept of self-love might conjure images of tree-hugging hippies or cheesy self-help books. But, as many psychology studies attest, self-love and -compassion are key for mental health and well-being, keeping depression and anxiety at bay.
“Why is self-love important?” you might ask. For many of us, self-love might sound like a luxury rather than a necessity — or a new-age fad for those with too much time on their hands.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you think you’re the smartest, most talented, and most beautiful person in the world. Instead, when you love yourself you accept your so-called weaknesses, appreciate these so-called shortcomings as something that makes you who you are. When you love yourself you have compassion for yourself.
You take care of yourself like you’d take care of a friend in distress. You treat yourself kindly. You don’t nitpick and criticize yourself.
Self-love is a practice and it’s a skill that takes work.
Self-love isn’t about instant gratification, a make you feel good in the moment thing,
Self-love means giving yourself what your body, brain, and soul needs for the marathon that is life. It isn’t hedonism and it isn’t chasing a physical or emotional high. The practice of self-love is the practice of nourishing yourself.
- Dr. Andrea Brandt
Most of the time, when we’re being too hard on ourselves, we do it because we’re driven by a desire to excel and do everything right, all the time. This entails a lot of self-criticism, and that persecutory inner voice that constantly tells us how we could’ve done things better is a hallmark of perfectionism.
Combine mindfulness with self-compassion -
“Self-compassion says, ‘Be kind to yourself in the midst of suffering and it will change.’ Mindfulness says, ‘Open to suffering with spacious awareness and it will change.'”
Replace the harsh inner voice with a kinder one, learn to notice it — which will be a step toward quietly subduing it — and actively try to soften it.
We all need a little gentle reminder now and then to love ourselves and to pamper -
here is yours, with love.
A tempo to sing to yourself.
Self-love is something that is unique to each person.
Mindfulness is being aware of how you’re feeling and what makes you feel better. And no two people are the exact same when it comes to what makes them happy.
Every single person deserves love and has the potential to be more than they know. No matter what your circumstances are, no one can take that away from you or make you think you’re not worth loving.
You are the only person that’s with you all day. You know all of your thoughts and feelings. Since this is the case, you ultimately influence yourself more than anything in your environment. That should tell you how important it is to treat yourself well!
Speak kind words
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more than this beautiful body
I'M AN ORIGINAL
imperfection yet perfect in my own skin
openly vulnerable but still strong
still learning but learned
confident but not egotistical
kind but set boundaries
someone who has ups & downs
Soul Speak Words...
We can all forget to apply self-love. It's easy to dismiss in favour of a task that screams 'priority'.
I'm guilty of this more than I want to admit. Depending on each of our lifestyles and obligations,
the challenge of self-care can be great or small - but still, we need to remember its importance.
WE ARE THE PRIORITY. If we don't function well for whatever reason, someone else has to pick up where we left off. For those that feel guilty for taking 'timeout' know that YOU need to fill your own cup first, and then you can go back to helping others. If you have children, I know it's challenging but steal moments, however fleeting. Those PJs and leggings are comfortable, but when did you last wear something you adore, feel alive in?
Do it! Get 'dressed up', you know, in those beautiful clothes that have remained in the wardrobe for another day. Throw them on to do the housework, for that school run, or shopping for boring essentials. Fall asleep knackered in them - but wear them. Feeling you is always found in the little things...
Don't reserve the 'good' things for special days. Use them now, in the present.
If you feel rough, a mess, a stig, can't be arsed - do this one thing, just for one day. Then do it another, and another, and soon it will become a habit again. The experts state if something is done daily for a month it becomes a habit. The good news is, it only takes a month to break a habit too.
Big love to all the strugglers trying to create better days. You are strong and you'll be okay. xoxo
Don't overthink it
just do - act
then you will see progress
train yourself to see
the bigger picture
reached by taking
Imagine your environment
just how you want
what changes would you need to make to create the lifestyle
that you dream of?
It's hard to let go of things - people, bad habits, situations, routines, etc
especially once attached but deep down you know it's time to release what no longer serves the good you desire in your life.
Don't try to make too many changes all at once
take little steps
make each one concrete - fixed
then take another step
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